I Kissed Dating Goodbye
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I Kissed Dating Goodbye is a best-selling 1997 book by Joshua Harris. The book focuses on Harris' disenchantment with the contemporary secular dating scene, and offers ideas for improvement, alternative dating/courting practices, and a view that singleness need not be a burden nor characterized by what Harris describes as "selfishness." He popularized the concept of "courting" as an alternative to regular secular dating, and in doing so has caused quite a lot of discussion regarding the appropriateness of his solutions to regular dating as well as the foundations on which he bases his reasoning.
In general, Harris believes that dating has become too inwardly focused. He feels that people date to find "their" mate according to their own principles, rules, and desires. In doing so, he argues, people put up a facade in an attempt to appear to be what the other person wants, and this hampers the "getting to know you" part of dating. He feels that it is more appropriate and more healthy in the long run to participate in "group dates" in order to truly understand the way a particular person interacts with others, since in a group setting in which some people know the person that person is less likely to be able to maintain a facade for the duration of the date.
Harris' solutions to the problems he sees have generated a bit of controversy in the Christian community. Harris proposes a system of courtship that involves the parents of both parties to a greater degree than conventional dating schemes.
As of February 2006, the book had sold over a million copies since its 1997 printing.
[edit] See also
- Missionary dating - different approach to dating
