Infidelity
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[edit] Defintion
Infidelity is literally a breach of faith. Fidelity, derived from the Latin word for faithfullness, is the principle of not deceiving one capable of being deceived. Infidelity is a breach of good faith that applies in a number of contexts. In the context of this article about close relationships, infidelity is referred to as cheating, which is 'any violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of a relationship'. It does not require sexual behaviour to qualify as infidelity. The definition of what constitutes an act of infidelity varies between and within cultures. People in a close relationship may have very different ideas and perceptions of infidelity - see Blumstein. A man cheated by his wife is referred to as a Cuckold but no equivalent word exists for a woman cheated by her partner.
In this article fidelity also refers to the accuracy and integrity of self-representation, honesty or candor in an intimate, committed relationship. Integrity may be defined as 'the inner sense of wholeness deriving from honesty and consistent uprightness of character.' Infidelity is a breach of that integrity through the use of deception by one party to a committed relationship and not necessarily monogamous. This breach is experienced as a betrayal of an explicit or implicit agreement between the partners to not keep secret those matters now the subject of deception. 'Deception is the covert manipulation of perception to alter thoughts, feeling, or beliefs.'
Here is a general definition of infidelity and a wiktionary definition.
[edit] Adultery, infidelity, affair, open relationship and romantic friendship
Adultery is "voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a partner other than the lawful spouse.' Main article on 'Adultery.
Infidelity is not limited to sexual intercourse nor to marriage but usually involves betrayal with one or a number of partners.
An affair is not necessarily a third party relationship. It may simply refer to a love affair between previously unattached people, with or without expressed sexuality. Main article on Affair.
An open relationship allows for open sexual choice. Polyfidelity on the other hand refers to closed choices among a defined group. In either case, when the rules are broken this may constitute infidelity. Main and related articles linked at nonmonogamy.
A romantic friendship is one apparently without sexuality or betrayal of a spouse, but it may be also used as a synonym for an emotional affair. Main article on emotional affair.
Having a crush or an infatuation is covered in this article Limerence.
The Wikipedia article, Psychology of Monogamy addresses some of the issues that may underly infidelity in a monogamous relationship.
[edit] Infidelity, family and work life
Some authorities (for example Frank Pittman in 'Grow Up' Golden Books) observe infidelity is involved in 90% of first time divorces. A 1997 study with Kristina Gordon found 'more than half of the marriages that experience infidelity ended in divorce'. By contrast John Gottman with his 35 years of research into marriage, is reported as saying "Only 20 percent of divorces are caused by an affair. Most marriages die with a whimper, as people turn away from one another, slowly growing apart." 50 UK divorce lawyers were asked to name the most common causes of their cases in 2003. Of those who cited extramarital affairs, 55% said it was usually the husbands and 45% said that it was the wives who cheated. In addition between 10-15% of children are conceived in an affair. A common source for affair partners is the work place.
[edit] Physical Infidelity
Main article to be merged.
[edit] Emotional Infidelity
Main article to be merged.
[edit] Infidelity on line
Main article on cybersex and on virtual sex which can form the basis of infidelity on line. Related articles on Internet pornography and Computer addiction.
[edit] Infidelity at work
Working closely with or living near someone and forming a romantic relationships may be due to the Propinquity effect. Main Article to be merged.
[edit] See also
This is an extensive list of links to related articles, in order to facilitate researching the subject across cultures and disciplines.
- Friendship
- Open marriage incidence
- Adultery
- Affair
- Extramarital sex
- Emotional affair
- Mistress (lover)
- The series on love
- Lovemaps
- Love styles
- Romantic love
- Love (scientiic views)
- Marriage
- Buddhist view of marriage
- Women in Islam
- Jewish views of marriage
- Monogamy
- Incidence of Monogamy
- Forms of nonmonogamy
- Religion and sexuality
- Religion and homosexuality
- Polyamory
- Polygyny
- Platonic love
- Romantic friendship
- Human bonding
- Human sexuality
- Interpersonal chemistry
- Intimate relationship
- Intimacy
- Emotional intimacy
- Physical intimacy
This group concerns not only breaches of interpersonal/cultural fidelity but also of law.
- Alienation of affections
- Intentional infliction of emotional distress
- Sexual misconduct
- Consensual crime
- Informed consent
- Fornication
- Islamic marital jurisprudence
- Zina (Arabic)
- Sexual harassment
- Coercive persuasion
- Relational aggression
- Age of consent
- Age disparity in sexual relationships
- Incest
- Abuse
- Statutory rape
- Transactional sex
- Enjo kōsai
- Sexology
- Sexual ethics
- Casual sex
- Philosophy of sex
- List of topics in sexual ethics
[edit] References
- [1] NORC at the University of Chicago
- Moultrup, David J. (1990). Husbands, Wives & Lovers . New York: Guilford Press.
- Glass, S. P., & Wright, T. L. (1992). Justifications for extramarital relationships: The association between attitudes, behaviors, and gender. Journal of Sex Research , 29, 361-387.
- Pittman, F. (1989). Private Lies . New York: W. W. Norton Co.
- Rubin, A. M., & Adams, J. R. (1986). Outcomes of sexually open marriages. Journal of Sex Research , 22, 311-319.
- Vaughan, P. (1989). The Monogamy Myth. New York: New Market Press.
- [2] INFIDELITY IN COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS II: A SUBSTANTIVE REVIEW Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, Apr 2005 by Blow, Adrian J, Hartnett, Kelley
- [3] INFIDELITY IN COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS I: A METHODOLOGICAL REVIEW Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, Apr 2005 by Blow, Adrian J, Hartnett, Kelley
- [4] Beyond Betrayal: Life After Infidelity
- Adult attachment and patterns of extradyadic involvement Family Process, Dec, 2004 by Elizabeth S. Allen, Donald H. Baucom
- [5] AN INTEGRATIVE INTERVENTION FOR PROMOTING RECOVERY FROM EXTRAMARITAL AFFAIRS Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, Apr 2004 by Gordon, Kristina Coop, Baucom, Donald H, Snyder, Douglas K
- [6] Treating infidelity: Therapeutic dilemmas and effective strategies Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, Oct 2004 by Ward, David B
- Managing Infidelity: A Cross-Cultural Perspective by Anne Buckmaster, William Jankowiak, M. Diane Nell; Ethnology, Vol. 41, PART 1, pages 85-100 2002
[edit] External links
- [7] Extensive summary linked to detail articles on impact of affairs of all types.
- [8] The late Shirley Glass' web site with free article and quizzes
- [9] ANTICIPATION OF MARITAL DISSOLUTION AS A CONSEQUENCE OF SPOUSAL INFIDELITY
- [10] Infidelity: The Lessons Children Learn by Jennifer Harley Chalmers, Ph.D.
- [11] Professor Kristina Gordon's research into infidelity and betrayal.
- [12] Fidelity versus infidelity defined in a research project.
- [13] Cybersex and Infidelity Online: Implications for Evaluation and Treatment by Kimberly S. Young, Alvin Cooper, Eric Griffiths-Shelley, James O'Mara, and Jennifer Buchanan Paper Published in Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity, 7(10, 59-74, 2000
